Every man on this planet should know how to turn a girl on. Sooner or later you will be in a position where you are with a girl that you like, the conversation is going WELL, but she is not turned on, she doesn’t want to have sex with you.
Unfortunately a lot of guys find it incredibly difficult to turn a woman on and that’s why they don’t get laid. They simply do not know how to do it.
In this article I will show you the best way to turn a girl on sexually with both verbal and non-verbal techniques.
How to turn a girl on…
when she thinks “let’s just be friends”.
Every man through his life will encounter the famous “let’s just be friends”. Why does “let’s just be friends” happen? It’s actually really simple. The girl does not see you as a sexual partner. She is not turned on, she does not want to have sexual activities with you. Her body and mind are not telling her “I want to fuck this guy”. Her body and mind are not turned on. “Let’s just be friends” is a result of it. If you don’t know how to turn a girl on you will hate yourself later.
Let’s just be friends
In 90% of cases this happens because guys don’t know how to talk with girls, they make them bored and uninterested with their logical conversations and facts. She is talking to you, but she does not feel anything. She does not feel your masculinity, she does not dream about your dick. The beauty of the female mind is that you can turn it on whenever you want. It’s like an on/off switch. I have spent years in cracking and understanding how the female mind works and I have found many flaws, tricks and back doors.
I have found a really easy way how to get them horny and how to turn them on.
We all know that in order to seduce a woman, you have to seduce her mind and body separately. Because if she likes you mentally but she doesn’t feel anything in her body she won’t have sex with you. She does not “feel” it. She likes you, but as a friend.
On the other side if you turn her body on, but she doesn’t like you mentally, again you achieve nothing. She will say “I am not sure” or “I do not know you yet… it’s too soon”.
The only way you can truly seduce a woman effectively, get her turned on and have sex is if you turn on her mind and body together at the same time. Good news for you guys is that I have solutions for both of them and I will share it with you in this amazing article. I will show you how to turn a girl on and how to implement it into your Game. Let’s start with the body first.
How to turn a girl on physically
Let’s talk about how to turn a girl on with your touch (with your hands). Yes, the smart ones of you will say “That’s easy, play with her tits, kiss her, grab her ass…” and that’s all correct, but a little bit uncalibrated. Can you imagine doing that with a girl you just met on the bus station or a girl from your class? Yes, that’s the problem. It’s too sexual, too soon. It’s not calibrated. Freaking out will happen.
By doing so you can look like a retard or a creep. You don’t want to go sexual too fast. The first thing you have to do is to start touching her non-sexual zones. She has to get used to just being touched by you. Let’s call those “green zones”. As you are talking to her touch her every now and then. You touch her non-sexual places. Accidentally touch as you do gestures, or do a high five, or hug her, do little push-pull games (“I hate you” and then you hug her, or the opposite, “I love you” and push her away).
The whole point of you doing this is so she gets used to being comfortable with your touch. This takes 5-10 minutes. This is a crucial step before it gets more sexual and we move on to the core of how to turn a girl on. See this step as a “foundation” on which you will base your “let’s get her turned on”.
Let’s talk more about “green zones”
Which are the green zones on her body (non-sexual areas)?
Arms, shoulders, hands, upper back, face. These are the areas of the body that are commonly touched in a regular daily conversation. We all do it when we talk with our friends, girlfriends, parents, coworkers. Give her time to get comfortable with your touch before it becomes more sexual later on.
One thing I have to warn you about is that you never look at the place you are touching. There is some creepy feeling she gets when you look at the place where you touch. For example, you want to touch her shoulder, then you look at the shoulder (break eye contact) and touch it.
This is something that I have seen lots of guys do and scare the girls. Do not do this. Instead keep eye contact while touching and keep talking to hide it.
If you look at the place, let’s say a shoulder, it will look like you are doing it with purpose, there is a reason why you are touching it, she will start analyzing it and it simply won’t look natural. To make it look normal and natural do this: keep eye contact and occupy her mind with a story, jokes, conversation. And then apply physical touch.
This way her mind won’t process it, but the body will get used to it. This is a trick I use all the time and it works. You have to do this only the first few times to get it going. The more you progress and the more she is turned on, the less you will have to hide it.
Spend some time on “green zones” and get her as comfortable with your touch as possible. If you do not get her comfortable with “green zones” she won’t let you progress and turn her on.
Let’s move on. Once you clear out green zones, you can move to “yellow zones”.
Yellow zones are slightly more sexual. Neck, ears, hair, lower back, hips are yellow zones. Yellow zones are where Game is actually played. I usually spend some good time there while talking to a girl in a bar, club or some social event. My hand just slides from upper back to lower back and I move it around the body. It’s never a constant touch, but you talk, remove your arm, then place it again, then drop it, then spin her around, touch her hips… It’s a game. It’s something totally normal as you talk with her. But what happens in her body, is that she is starting to feel more and more sexual.
Her body is getting turned on more and more. And that is the beauty of design of the female mind and body. Anyone can turn her on. Did you know that 80% of the sexual partners a woman had in her lifetime, she didn’t choose/she wasn’t sexually attracted to when they first met. Instead a guy turned her on and had sex with her. We guys can’t have sex with a girl that does not turn us on. Girls can do this. This is why good techniques and Game is important.
You can literally be able to seduce and turn on any girl out there. Spend a good portion of time on yellow zones. Let her “cook” inside. Yellow zones are a bridge from non-sexual to sexual. Do not hurry, play with her hips, smell her neck, whisper to her ear, blow warm air around her ear as you talk to her.
This is one of my favorite things to do in loud clubs, because it’s a perfect excuse to get closer to her ear and neck. It becomes socially acceptable to be close to her, have a hand around her wrist (lower back) and touch hair, neck, ears…
Loud club = really easy yellow zone escalation
You have to understand that the female skin is 1000 times more sensitive than male (our) skin is. Every touch she feels more intensely, more powerfully. As the neck is one of the sexual arousal zones, hips as well, someone touching it will get her sexual and turned on. It’s a normal, natural thing. It’s a physical reaction. That’s why the “foundation of green zones” is crucial. She feels comfortable to be touched by you and then you escalate to a more sexual touch and now she feels comfortable + sexual. This is the key of seduction. The key of turning a girl on. As you are doing this you do not want to trigger any “alarms” in her head. Everything has to happen smoothly…
Game is played in yellow zones
This is one more reason why learning how to dance is a really smart thing to do. Girls love to dance and for you as a player it gives you an easy way to escalate and turn her on while touching her (dancing with her). I believe that every player should learn salsa and know how to dance. It takes you 2-3 months to learn it and stays with you forever. Look, dancing allows you to touch her whole body sexually under the pretext of “we are just dancing”.
Results come in red zones
Which are the red zone areas? I think it’s clear by now: lips, tits, ass, legs, pelvic area.. . She will let you touch these body parts only if you did a really good job in the yellow zones. The only way to progress to red zones is kissing. Kissing is a turning point in seduction. Kissing is actually a bridge between the yellow and red zones. If you are kissing her and making out with her it’s normal to touch her tits, it’s OK to play with her ass. It’s normal to escalate.
If you didn’t kiss her yet, it’s not OK to play with her tits or ass. As simple as that. So kissing is your way to the red zones. Kissing is one of the key elements of turning a girl on. I am not going to cover how to kiss a girl because you can read it all in this amazing article here covering how to kiss a girl. It’s a must read as well. So, once you are kissing her, you can move your hand to her ass and explore other areas of the red zone.
Remember this rule: the more to the red you go, the more private you should be. Girls do not like to look slutty and sexual in front of their friends or in public.
In order not to ring her alarm bells again, slow down and take care of logistics. There is so much you can escalate to in public. Some girls have no moral and social norms and they will be OK with it (rebels), but the majority of girls won’t feel comfortable being too sexual in front of other people. Sometimes if you do it wrong, a girl will comment “Why are you touching me?” or she will command you to stop touching her.
This usually happens in first stages, the first few minutes in green or yellow zones. I am sure it already happened to you. What works best in this situation: “Baby, I can’t control my hands around you… you are so damn hot/sexy… look at them, they are not listening to me… look, bad arm, bad arm… (be playful and slap one of your arms)” and then continue with the process.
Formula = blame it on her and how sexy she is. You can’t control yourself around her. They love it!
How to turn a girl on mentally – Dirty Talk
We talked a lot about the physical aspect, now let’s talk about verbal – the conversation. Both are actually equally important for success. The idea is to let her mind flow together with her body. If her body is getting sexual, her mind should follow.
If the mind does not follow, she will stop what is happening to her body. As a dating coach, I have seen many seduction attempts fall apart because of this. The guy was progressing physically very well, but mentally the girl didn’t like him and she just stopped him. And in many cases you will see that, the body responds very well to you, but her mind doesn’t.
The solution is dirty talk
This is how you turn a girl’s mind on. While you are talking with a woman, make sure your conversation is quality and you go wide and deep. If you still struggle with conversation, read my article on how to talk to women. The conversation should go smooth, this is, again, the foundation. On top of that foundation, every few minutes you should whisper something sexual to her ear. Mixing normal conversation with a sexual one.
“We are talking about music, but I have to tell you, you have such a nice legs, they are so driving me crazy” and then you go back to conversation, and continue talking like nothing happened. What this does is sending an impulse to her brain: “this guy is sexual, he likes me, he wants me, I am sexy to him”. Change the topic and let her unconscious cook. 5-10 minutes later do it again.
“You have such a nice high heels, I really like them… I would remove everything from you… but these heels, they would stay on” and then shift back to your normal conversation. This is Mind Fucking 101. You are playing with her left and right brain hemisphere (both logic and emotions are engaged).
I have tried this on hundreds of women around the planet and it worked every single time I did it. Dirty talk is simply an amazing technique. This is such an effective way to turn a girl on! Always whisper sexual things to her left ear!
With years of testing this, I found that there is a difference between whispering to the left or to the right ear. And I found that whispering to the left ear produces more intense and sexual emotions in her mind. It intrigued me, so I did a research and found out that the left ear is controlled by the right hemisphere of the brain.
And we know that the right hemisphere of the brain deals with emotions, so it all made perfect sense. Everything you whisper to her left ear goes directly to her emotional part of the brain, bypassing the critical mind (logic) in some way. If you only knew what I am thinking about right now, you would blush…
Rules of dirty talk and how to turn a girl on fast
- So how to turn a girl on? It’s easy if you do it smart. Calibration is the key here. If you overdo it you can scare her or make it sound awkward. Slowly, get more and more sexual with her. Each dirty talk line you say should be 15-20% more sexual than the previous one. Give her mind to process the sexual thoughts you place in her mind, and then move on. Step by step she is yours. Time is on your side here.
- Verbals should follow non-verbals . Your dirty talk lines should follow your physical touch. If you are saying “you have such a sexy legs… (place your hand on her back). This will also create confusion and chaos in her head, which allows you to get her even more turned on. Make sure that your words go along with your touch. You want to avoid a situation where you are doing your fifth dirty talk line and you still haven’t touched her at all. This would be creepy.
- Change the topic after you deliver a dirty talk line . After you deliver your line to hear ear, pull back, smile, and totally calm change the topic to something logical, like traveling, sports music, food, drinks, hobbies…
Formula on how to turn a girl on & dirty talk
COMPLIMENT ON HER BODY + YOUR SEXUAL EMOTIONS
Instead memorizing lines and what to say, you should be able to create your own lines for the moment when you are with a girl. Follow this simple formula and you will always have something to say, something to whisper.
A) Find a body part or something you really like on her. Maybe something that’s turning you on or you find it sexy. Like a dress that fits her nice or she has an amazing ass you really like, or she has those sexy tight jeans… whatever, look at her and find what you like about her.
B) Create a compliment out of it.
– “You have such a sexy ass.”
– “I really like those tight jeans.”
C) Add your sexual feelings on it (express how it’s making you feel).
“It’s distracting me from this conversation”; ”It’s turning me on”; “It’s driving me crazy” ; “I can’t control myself”
D) Combine it together into an sentence. Example: “
You have such a sexy ass, I can’t control myself.”
– “You have such sexy legs, when I look at them my blood is going to all the wrong places.”
– “I really like those tight jeans, I am losing control over myself when I look at them.”
Keep mixing normal conversation with sexual and notice how her panties are getting wet. She will be fighting it, resisting it. It’s all good, just keep whispering sexual things into her ear.
This is the way to turn a girl on, by turning on her body and turning on her mind together you will get her wild. Now go out and make some girl happy.
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