Yes, there is a big difference between talking to guys vs. talking to girls.
See, most men during their childhood talk only to other boys and they get used to this style of communication.
Do you want to learn how to talk to girls?
They are not familiar with talking to girls. Man-to-man conversation is always logical, fact-oriented and totally opposite from what girls are used to talk to and their style of talking. That’s why guys have problems and don’t know how to talk to girls.
- I will teach you secrets on how to talk to girls.
- You will have no luck with a conversation if you talk to girls using the typical, male way of talking.
- The main differences between men and women are the topics of conversation and the logic/emotions involved in the communication.
- Men and women use different parts of the brain when they communicate. Girls are way more emotional while guys are logical.
The first step in getting better in talking to girls is using different topics of conversation:
Let’s look into the structure of conversation of men vs. women
When a man is talking to another man, the topics they mostly talk about are:
- Sports
- Cars
- Gadgets
- Girls
- Sex
- Money
- Job
- Career
Woman-to-woman topics are:
- Drama
- Gossip
- Emotions
- Fashion
- Shopping
- Relationships
- Sex
Funny thing, is if you use Man to Man structure to talk to girls, she won’t understand it, because its filled with Logic and facts, no emotions, their brain cannot process logic that well and its boring therefore she won’t be that engaged into the conversation.
On the other hand, if you start talking like girls do, and you start talking about drama, makeup etc., you will look like a gay guy, her new girlfriend. So that’s no good either.
That’s why the third solution is the best to do.
You want to get good at how to talk to girls?
From now on, these topics you will use when you talk to girls.
- Music
- Movies
- Traveling
- Sports
- Hobbies
- Food
- Drinks
- Childhood
- Relationships
These 9 topics are your new structure of conversation, your new way to talk to girls.
So, how talk to girls?
USE EMOTIONS
Besides topics, one more thing you have to change is the way you express yourself. Girls are all about emotions, they are all about stories, bonding, and understanding each other.
We guys do not care about how someone felt when he went shopping for new shoes, girls do. Emotions are everything for them. So use more emotions in your stories, express emotions as well when you are with her. But avoid negative and sad emotions; stay on a positive loop of the emotional spectrum. You still want to stay a man, just shift and express more emotions in your stories.
STORYTELLING
This is a crucial step of talking to girls. Girls love stories, and stories are the best way for her to get to know you. We all have good stories to tell, I am sure you do as well. Write yourself two good stories per each topic above. Let her learn about you through those stories.
Try to have some stories that convey that you are adventurous, interesting, unpredictable, social, confident, that you like to help people etc.
REMOVE QUESTIONS
Stop asking too many questions.
Once you are talking to a girl, try not to ask several questions in a row. This way you will look needy, like you have nothing to contribute to the conversation, and it will look like you are impressed with her life. Since all girls want a guy who is above them and a guy who they will be impressed about, you cannot show neediness. Questions suck energy. There are energy vampires, and people who give energy. Be a guy who gives energy. Be a guy who tells stories, who makes jokes… Remember, she needs you, you do not need her.
Most of us talk to girls with a purpose to either attract them so they like us or to connect with them, to create a friendship.
CREATE ATTRACTION AND CONNECTION
These two are really important if you are trying to seduce her. In order to have some sort of a sexual relationship, you need to create good Attraction (so she likes you) and Connection (so she knows you). Once you have both of those then you get that “click”, and you can move on to get her to a date or something else.
You will create good connection by going through the list of topics (music, hobbies, childhood etc.) and connecting with her on those topics, exchanging stories, ideas, getting to know each other.
To build a good sexual attraction, you have to display the right personal traits or qualities to her. Not only through words, but non-verbal too. With your behavior. Girls like guys who are little bit mysterious, unpredictable, fun, with a good sense for humor, challenging, playful, maybe a little bit dangerous etc.
You do not have to possess all qualities, but that’s the direction you want to go. You want to be a badboy with a good heart.
And now when you know how to talk to girls, equip yourself with some push-pull lines like:
- “If I was into blondes, I would be all over you.”
- “You are either the coolest girl I’ve ever met, or a total weirdo.”
- “A part of me wants to stay here with you, another part wants to run away…”
- “We would never get along, we are too similar.”
Wanna learn more about how to talk to girls?
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