How to change beliefs

We already talked a lot about beliefs and mentioned some techniques to change beliefs.

Somewhere mirrorwork, somewhere hypnosis are making new positive reference experiences.

Changing beliefs is one of the core topics of our 360 Inner Game course.

For us, it’s shown, in our own journey by observation of our clients, that the process of changing a belief is way easier when it’s supported by a coach or a trainer.

Also it requires a lot of know-how and feeling because there is no right way.

People just react very individually on different techniques.

Some swear of mirrorwork and affirmations, while other people make great progress with hypnosis.

In this article, we want to show you our typical basic to change belief by reframing.


Step 1: What´s the belief?


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Often emotions helps us, to get a connection with the beliefs, and to discover where the belief hold us back in our life.

Most of us have a strong belief that the stove top is very hot.

This belief is obviously very fair and validated, based on a very strong experienced we all made, by touching the hot plate as a child.

This is a very easy example of a belief but is adaptable for every other belief.

Every belief was learned or experienced once in our life.

The same story with talking to girls.

Someone (probably your parents) in your past, somehow taught you consciously or unconsciously that approaching girls is wrong.

To locate the source of the belief, we formulate the new belief the client wants to have (exp. I want to be confident around girls).

So the first question is, when was the first time he wasn’t confident around girls, or when the first person told him, to not be confident around girls.

Step 2: Discover the source of the belief:

When we found the source of the belief, the core memory, we can start to discover it.

Who was involved, what was the emotion?

In the focus on this step is to find the resources, which were missing in this situation.

In our example (It’s not okay to talk with girls), probably a supportive parent where missing.


Step 3: Give resources

This is where the magic happens.

As an adult we have access to all the resources, which were missing while we made those core memories, which are the root for our negative belief.

So we are changing the belief by adding those resources to those memories.

It’s basically overwriting the experiences with a new one.


Step 4: Anchor the new belief

With the new experience a new belief is installed.

The last step is to anchor those new beliefs.


This simple guide is basically all our Inner Game work and shows how we are changing beliefs. If you want to change your beliefs on your own, focus on formulating your new belief. The opposite of one that holds you back. Then start to discover ways, how to transform those beliefs. To support people changing their beliefs is the mission and passion of us, the Inner Game team of Badboy Lifestyle. Don’t hesitate to contact us, to find a custom-made solution for your transformation and keep in mind, that Inner Game work has the biggest leverage for your game.

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Who is Ray The Shaman?

Ray dedicated his life to transformation and personal growth. In Man-Circles, the Pick Up Community and in his career as Project Manager he always focused on developing himself and to support the people around him to live the life the wanna have. As a Part of Badboys Team his approach to Inner Game is high performance mental training rather than therapy. Ray’s sessions are a potbury of NLP, sports psychology, specific how-to-advice, shamanism, initiation rituals and neurohacking, which leads to a strange but powerful processes. Ray attaches great importance to combine conscious and unconscious work in his coachings. His passions is to help men on their own journey and to clean up the mess psychologists and therapeuts did.